In life, there are some things that guys should never say to a girl. Has he convinced you that you’re overreacting when you got upset about that comment he made a week ago? Well, we’re here to back you up.
Your friends are annoying.
Never say to your girlfriend that her friends are annoying. Yes, she may complain about them to you occasionally (or on the regular). Yes, they may fight and you may be forced to listen to her rant about the time Lindsay completely f*cked her over. Yes, the things they fight about can be petty but never ever tell her that her friends are annoying. You can nod silently and tell her she deserves better friends but don’t ever outright say her friends are annoying. She will always take their side and a fight between her and her friends could very much turn into a fight with you instead.
We need to talk.
These 4 words might literally kill your relationship. The first thing that goes through your girlfriends mind when you say “we need to talk” is “omg, he wants to break up with me”. After the initial panic of “omg, he’s going to break up with me”, she’ll jump into thinking she’ll need to break it off first. So although you mean you just want to talk (not break up) all she will read it is “let’s break up”.
What do you want to do?
If your girl is indecisive, this will be the worst question to ask her. She will get frazzled and annoyed because she’ll just respond “whatever you want to do”. If she responds like this, shoot her some suggestions on what you think she’ll like. If she can’t choose out of the options you give her, don’t say anything else. Just let her think about it. If she really just wants to do whatever you want to do, just take initiative and pick something to do already.
Can you just relax/chill.
Were you just having a fight? Were you losing? Because you will now. All hell will break loose if you tell your girlfriend to just “chill”. Girls are the masters of table-turning and you telling them to chill will make them do the complete opposite. It’s like when you tell someone to not think of a purple elephant, it ends up being all they can think about. So when you tell your girlfriend to chill, she will not. So you better start running now.
You look different…
Different? What does that even mean? She will start to go through all the possible adjectives that “different” could mean. You might mean she looks nicer in a different way but that’s not what she will think. She’ll think you mean she looks weirder, uglier, or fatter. If you don’t want your girlfriend to go into self-loathing mode, don’t tell her she looks “different”.