Every little girl looks forward to her wedding day. They can’t wait to meet the Prince Charming who will sweep them off their feet. But, as you grow older, you realize that nobody’s perfect. Your dreams of marrying Prince Charming become dashed away as quickly as the movie ended. So instead of looking for Mr. Perfect, you look for the one who his perfect for you.
As you look for Mr. Right, you try to look past some of bad traits so you can see all the good ones. This is good. It shows that you’re not shallow. But, despite how shallow it might seem, there are some guys you should just leave in the dating pool.
The Abusive Man
Be it physically or emotionally abusive, no woman should have put up with an abusive man. If you notice the man you are dating seems temperamental to the point of abuse, then it is best you leave that relationship before things get more serious.
A man with commitment problem
Finally locked down the guy every girl’s been chasing? Well, I got news for you. Just because he finally decided to knuckle down and commit, doesn’t mean he’s committed. If he used to be have commitment problem, he may still be and you’ll always wonder how invested in the relationship he really is.
This man loves to flirt with strangers, waiters, and even your friends. The man you should seek is one who flirts with you and only you, no matter the circumstance. That last thing you want is to be married to someone who will deliberately flirt with people in front of you, let alone behind your back.
A man with No Ambitions
Everyone goes through a transitional period in life where they’re trying to figure things out. Maybe you were dating a guy who’d just started his transitional period. He’d just quit his job, stayed at home a lot and whiled away the hours on his video games.
“I’m thinking about my next move,” he told you.
After a year, he was still thinking.
Some guys never seem to figure out what it is they want from life. Some can’t make their minds up about having kids. Our advice to you would be to move on from this type of guy and find someone who knows exactly what their purpose is.
Does he cheat on you time and time again? Does he always seem to be looking for the next lay even while he professes his love to you? Then it is a bad idea to consider such a man for marriage. Cheats hardly change who they are, no matter how many times they promise they will.
Narcissus was an ancient Greek mythological figure who was so beautiful that he fell in love with himself – but because he couldn’t leave his own reflection in the water, he eventually drowned. A person who is a narcissist is so convinced of their own greatness that they don’t see their weaknesses. Marrying a narcissist is a very one sided relationship. They’re always trying to vaunt their own greatness – often at the expense of others.
Stay away from him. Although he may seem as a fun and outgoing, I guarantee you will be better off with someone who stays away from gatherings full of bad mistakes and regretful decisions. The lifestyle of a partier never fits well with the maturity needed in marriage.
The Stingy Man
A man, who finds it difficult to be generous with his material possessions, even when he has more than enough to share, might not be the best family-man. Marriage involves a lot of sharing and if he is too self-obsessed to see the needs of someone else, that union would end up being one-sided.
The control freak
Everybody likes to have things their own way. Unfortunately, because men are socialized to express hostility and anger when they don’t get what they want, a man who is a control freak can often become intimidating and even abusive (physically or mentally).
The Fake man
He’s the guy who claims to be one thing, but in person never steps up to the plate. Not only is this unfair to your relationship, but you need to understand this isn’t going to stop anytime soon. Look for a man who is who he claims to be. Fakes can only pretend for so long.
Any addiction becomes an extra work for the partner involved. If you suspect he might be an alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, sex, etc addict, then it is better to save yourself future pain and unhappiness by looking for someone else. Dating an addict automatically puts you and your family in second place. Something else will always come first and this would usually have an adverse effect on you and your marriage.
The mama’s boy
You’ve heard that how a man treats his mother is how he’ll treat you. So you look for a guy who is close to his mom and spends a lot of time with her. But be careful, if he’s too close you’ll find yourself married to his mother, too. So you better get used to hearing, “My mom doesn’t do it that way.” And you better get used to his mother being your marriage counselor, too.